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This is universal no matter between whom the relationship

Bpd is the last scream for help.

My dad would threaten to cut me off financially if i didn't ___ and I told him that if that's what he wanted and needed to do that he should do it. He never did until recently when I told him that I won't be going to his and my stepmom's house to eat unless they made GF foods since I have Celiac Disease. They don't try to see me when they are in my town, either. I don't think it's a "me" thing. 🙄🤨

A while ago, someone in a 12 step meeting shared... "Feelings Lie." I wish I knew then what I know now.

Doesn't work on me anymore keep your manipulation tactics aholes

thank you

I had a lot of trauma most of my life and I believe that is what caused fibromyalgia. Diagnosed in 2009.

I want a refund for my Child Psych course. I just learn more through this video than in an entire semester. This should be required for everyone who wants to be a parent. Heck, to get a driver's license, you have to take a test. To become a parent, you need to get horny. My parents should have never had kids.

Thank you so much I appreciate all your talks and insights

This whole series is amazing. Describes me quite well...

You don’t understand. He is simply shedding light on trauma responses & their adaptations. These people don’t even know how badly trauma has changed their lives. I’m a survivor and only recently has this made it to mainstream. Someday Complex PTSD will make its way into the DSM manual and PhDs will have to treat it. Until then, this man will continue to help hundreds.

My dad has always done this to the people who love him, while being on good behavior twards people who dont care. The results are. Im estranged from him, my mom divorced him. He essentially believes that unconditional love means a person will always stick around, regardless of his behaviornand it was so incredibly painful I just couldn't do that game. Hes bolown snoke in my face, has always treated me like i wasnt there. I accepted jim fully as he is and chose estrangement. I still love him very much, but i don't want to always feel rejected and like my existence is just too much trouble and effort to deal with.

Megalomaniacs are Megalomaniacs

Definitely me right now 😂

I would not put up with anything like that. It’s childish and I don’t play games like that. I hope people don’t do that and hear this man out

Big time did this growing up (and still do at 35 but not as extreme). I had my own microcosm(s). I spent most my days in bed escaping. My mind eventually would pull me into that world without my "permission" and id forget that im not really there. It became an issue at school.

Adaptations are the survival of any species, every living thing must adapt to present moment situations or they are eaten.

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Thanks for the sound advice. One comment regarding the choice of word “normal” when describing an unhealthy behavior, perhaps it’s a common behavior, but definitely not normal.

I understand why this is presented in the context of childhood experiences. But as he's talking, I am reminded of my sister's 12 year relationship with an abusive person and his cult-like family; my own professional experience doing tech support for a cable company then 15 years in another industry reporting to an insidious "nice" person who was actually a micromanaging nightmare, I think of my friend's experiences in the military... there are so many ways we can live with ongoing daily trauma. Maybe he'll address this in a future lecture, but I suspect those of us who grew up in the environments he describes are more likely to stay in those environments as adults until we process it and learn the skills to identify and manage.

This is an absolute critical. It difficult part in the recovery!!!! Thank you so much for sharing!❤

It's hard not to generalize what he is saying out of frustration at the fact he is right. I'm weary to accept advice from others, especially religious ppl honestly. I find it interesting that while pointing out the problems of having an extreme work ethic he never really outright condemns it. It still seems he and most, would still consider those "tired heroes" to be ideal. Because it's true, the hardest worker gets the most praise. Work smarter not harder is my generalization from this hahaha.

The person I'm talking too told me that she feels that I have a check list for her.. I responded with we are getting to know each other.

My malaxaptive daydreaming, brought me the "life of my dreams" as pur thoughts plus emotions do indeed attract our preferred reality. Nothing to be ashamed of. Now that im more healed i decide to conciously dream instead of being controlled by my subconcious. But im super grateful my subxoncious dreams took the reaponsibility flr my life choices, without it i wouldnt have had the strenght to think of anything. Just my 2 cents

The word can give you rest if you don't resist it. My safe place is IN HIS WORD AND FELLOWSHIP WITH GOD Psalm 91KJV

I wonder if between "open & sensitive" And "scar tissue", there's another realm..(?)

I read the Psalms KJV till relaxation .

How does porn betray trust? That personal, question would be why is it needed in the first place?!

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That "DREAMER" comment is 100% me and I'm suffering everyday to give it up because i have kids that needs me but from the time i wake up to the time i go to sleep I constantly struggle to be in reality and not unconsciously switch to fantasy something i realize is NOT REAL.

I’m in a codependent abusive relationship with someone who threatens to kill themselves any time I place a minor boundary. My message to codependent people: you are making everyone around you miserable with your neediness. It is overwhelming, smothering, and manipulative. I pray that anyone struggling with codependency tendencies overcomes it instead of using it as an excuse and saying “this is just how I am because I was abused”. I was abused too, there’s no excuse, be self sufficient and stop bleeding the life out of everyone around you. You can do it 💜

He makes it sound a bit like it's only men that are narcissistic... nit pick i know.

No contact is the only way the trauma ends!

I spent my entire childhood pacing in my backyard dreaming up fantasy worlds, to the pointnit was a joke among my family. I still love to go for walks but now i realize i am not present on these walks but escaping. I dont know how to work through this but im going to try.

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Need a longer version of this because I can see how taking this snippet could end up with someone basically gaslighting themselves. Of course, a thought is not always true, but sometimes it is and telling yourself it's not true is not going to help your mental health at all.

Even with attempting to brace myself based on the trigger warning and the title, this is a rough listen.

This is better than going to therapy

I am the bad person, in all of these videos. I want to destroy myself, at least remove myself from other people so they dont have to deal with me. How am I supposed to do better for myself?

Could you explain more about what it actually means to operate out of your cortex rather than the limbic brain? I'm not sure exactly how I do that... Just would like that to be explained more. Thanks.

Excellent message ty❤

Very insightful and so accurate. 👏

I was diagnosed with dysautonomia, but I swear its this 👌

I think that I have it figured out by now, that God judges all, no matter how wealthy, no matter how poor, based on if psychologically have and sin of automatic narcissistic judgemental disdain, also can be seen as snobbery and smugness. Blindly do that instead of knowing anything about anyone else's life, and out of added self centeredness, anything goes on others. It's what makes decide that anything goes on millions of other people in the world, as long as economically and gives or maintains power self beneficial.

This is my childhood

U make good content but please next time use close mic or record in different room. Its so uncomfortable to listen to so much reverb and echoes.

This guy just explained religion

I love how you explain everything. I've learnt soo much from you. You have really helped me understand more about the trauma I've experienced! One thing I notice about myself is that I hold my breath. I think this is a safety issue! I haven't felt safe for years at a deep level. No I realise why. I also realise how shame has crippled me for year's. What an insight that is and how debilitating that is! Thank-you for sharing your wisdom. Blessings ❤

Excellent insights, Tim. I was paralyzed with shame most of my life; you could say I had a shame-based identity. I experience shame through what I have done. (my sin) I experience shame through what has been done to me. (sin against me) I experience shame through what I believe. (ungodly beliefs) >>> But God! God's redemptive solution for shame caused by my sin is confession and repentance. [Proverbs 28:13; 1 John 1:9; 2 Corinthians 7:10] God's redemptive solution for shame caused by sin against me (emotional wounds) is forgiveness. [Matthew 6:14-15; Mark 11:25; Colossians 3:13] God's redemptive solution for shame caused by my ungodly beliefs is truth that sets free. [John 8:31-32; John 17:17; Psalm 119:160] 1 John 3:8 "The Son of God appeared to destroy the works of the devil." Blessings